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Goal: How to make changes when feelings are negative about change
We predict the outcome to any change we contemplate, and if our feelings are highly charged (negative) we won’t often take the first step to making a change.
Help coach your student to ignore the feelings, run an experiment, and try the change. Flip the script – do first, feel second. Action over feelings. This can be an effective approach to a lot of things.
Activity from Planner
Want to make a change but waiting until you feel ready? Try to flip the script, do it first and then decide on your feelings later. Stop making decisions based on predictions about how it might feel. Think of it like trying on clothes at the store. You don’t know how they will fit until you try them on. So do the same here and create an experiment. What is the shortest amount of time you could try out this new change and get a sense of how it feels? Commit to only that time, and then see how you feel about it afterward.
NOTE: this skill builder does not have an extended activity
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